7 Mistakes I Made at my Wedding
7 Mistakes I Made at My Wedding
As the holiday season approaches, so do holiday proposals, excited brides, and endless pictures on social media of those brand new diamond sparklers. This article is for all of you newly engaged ladies (or maybe you’re close!) but hopefully you can avoid these mistakes I made at my wedding almost two years ago. Enjoy!
1. Not shutting off my phone the week of my wedding
I was still in college leading up to our wedding and while I was so excited for the big day to come, I was studying for finals and I was the most stressed I’ve ever been in my life. I can’t tell you how many unimportant calls, texts, and emails, I received the week leading up to our wedding. Everyone from guests to vendors were lighting up my phone at least every hour. It got to the point where I was so stressed out from people needing things from me, that I couldn’t eat anything without feeling sick to my stomach (and yes that included my wedding day).
My suggestion: Even if you’re not a crazy pants trying to get through finals week and wedding planning like me, just shut off your phone or put it on airplane mode. Delegate the receptionist role to your maid of honor or a parent so you have a message and call filter. If something really needs your input or there’s an emergency, they can call your spouse instead and pass the message along. This will allow you to relax the week of your special day and enjoy your last days as an engaged couple!
2. Not delegating tasks
I touched on this in my last point, but delegate, delegate, delegate! The fewer wedding day tasks you have on your plate, the better. My mistake was thinking I needed to handle the planning and people all on my own with just my fiancé as help. While he was a huge lifesaver during the planning process and on our wedding day, I wish I had enlisted the help of my friends and family more to make the wedding day run smoother.
3. Not staying at the hotel the night before
I wish I could shake my bridal self on this one! I wasted so much time driving to my venue and getting my hotel room set up so my bridesmaids and I could get ready there. It was so chaotic and all avoidable. Do yourself a favor and stay at the hotel the night before your big day. Have a sleepover with your besties, enjoy your last night before you become a wife, and soak in those precious moments!
4. Not getting my hair done at the venue
We had an evening ceremony and reception, but I’ll be honest, the morning and afternoon leading up to the main event was a big ol’ hot mess. I insisted on using my hometown hairstylist instead of paying someone to come to me in the hotel room (that I should’ve woken up in with mimosas and brunch). Huge mistake. While she did an amazing job with my hair, it took an unnecessary chunk of time for me to get to the salon, get my hair done, get my mom’s hair done, and get on the road to the venue. Listen up bride, grab a mimosa and make people come to you. Save yourself time, energy, and stress.
5. Not embracing absolutely everything that said bride on it
You are (hopefully) only a bride once! I’m not going to lie, I cringed at some of the bride stuff I saw in the wedding shops and online BUT that’s why it’s fun! Are your going to wear a bedazzled tiara and glitter sash that says bride on it every day of your life? No, but a cute and comfy outfit that says bride all over it is a MUST on your wedding day and honeymoon! My mistake was again, not soaking all of it in. I wore bride stuff on my wedding day, bachelorette party, bridal shower, and maybe one day on my honeymoon, but girlfriend, embrace the bride you are! If you want 3 mugs, sunglasses, and a throw pillow that all say bride on them, do it!
Bonus Tip: Make sure you wear something comfy on your big day before you hop in your wedding dress. I wore a super soft bride tank top, bride zip up hoodie, and my favorite yoga pants!
6. Not investing more into a photographer
I want to preface this by saying my photographer did a great job and I love my wedding photos! However, I wish I had invested a tiny bit more money and time researching to get a photographer that had more of an artist’s eye. Maybe this is because I’m a photographer now, but it’s important to find a photographer and/or videographer that you connect with and matches your style. You should be able to envision yourself in their portfolio photos! But hey, they still came out beautifully and we’re happy with our photos! I still ugly cry looking at our wedding album.
Bonus Tip: Look for a photographer who is calm and supportive. One thing I loved about my photographer was that she was such a calming presence on that chaotic day. On my wedding day she was great with my family, had a sweet personality, and let me know that she was there for me if I needed absolutely anything.
7. Not wearing my veil
Okay, this one I’m still salty about. The wedding day is a whirlwind. You will forget things, things will go wrong, you guys, I barely remembered to put on underwear that day. I’m just happy I didn’t throw up or forget my engagement ring! Anyway, I was running late, my bridesmaids and I were rushing around in the bridal room of the venue, just trying to put makeup on and look presentable. Well we finally get out the door, the music plays, I’m excited, I walk down the aisle, look into my husband’s eyes, and immediately think shit I forgot the veil.
Moral of the story: run a mental checklist before you walk down the aisle and don’t worry about anyone else getting ready but you. You are the priority.
Despite these “mistakes” I had an amazing wedding day. The ceremony was beautiful, the reception was a blast, and the honeymoon was even better. Things WILL go wrong, you WILL forget things, but that’s what makes your wedding memorable and special. There’s no such thing as a perfect wedding, so don’t put too much pressure on yourself and enjoy the day- it’ll go by SO FAST! Congratulations, bride!