5 Lessons I’ve Learned From Getting Married Young
1. Love is not ageist.
When you know, you know. Whether you’re 82 or 18, it’s amazing when you find your person! I met my now husband at 19 and got married two months shy of my 22nd birthday. I always tell people, yea I was young, but I was lucky. I was lucky to find an amazing man this early in life. Some people go their entire lives without finding a love like ours. Age is an invisible number that love can’t see.
2. Use this time to be a role model.
It’s okay to be first. Being the first one in your friend group to get married and/or have kids can be scary and sometimes lonely. HOWEVER you are a pioneer, a role model, and a couple that other people can admire. GOALS! We got that one all the time and we just laughed because we’re just two people who fell in love and have a great partnership. So don’t worry about when your friends catch up, just focus on your own journey.
3. You get more time with the one(s) you love.
Let’s be honest: life is full of uncertainties and you never know how much time you have left on this earth. Live your life the way you want to and take advantage of the time you have together. If you’ve found “the one” young, that’s just all the more time you get to spend together in your lifetime! Thinking about having kids early too? Awesome! More time you can spend with the family you've created. You can keep up with your kiddos and play with them easier. By the time they move out of your house, you’ll still be young and able enough to do a bunch of fun adventurous things with your partner like traveling around the world or running a marathon. In addition to preparing financially and emotionally for a baby, you should also make a pre-pregnancy and pre-baby bucket list. List all of the fun things you and your partner want to do before getting pregnant and before having your first baby. I’ll make a separate post about those soon!
4. There will ALWAYS be joy thieves.
Congrats, you’re engaged or having a baby! You rush to tell the news to all your friends, family, and coworkers only to be met by the inevitable joy thief. A joy thief is someone who will always criticize or be skeptical of good news. “OH, but your so young!”, “Is that your mother’s baby?”, “What did your parents say?”, “Are you sure about this?” and you blood starts to boil. People will always let their opinions be known or judge you. You will face these people in your life no matter what age you are! Here’s the thing: it’s YOUR life and not theirs. *DO NOT LET THEM STEAL YOUR HAPPINESS! * Be confident in yourself, your relationship, and your decisions. Don’t be afraid to tell people they’re being rude and don't hesitate to defend yourself.
5. No one can write your love story, except you.
No matter where you live, there will always be an “ideal” time that society wants you to get married or have kids. How stupid is that? We let people we often don’t even know, tell us how to live our lives *massive eye rolls*. The good news? Every person and relationship in this world is different. That being said, shut out the extra noise from surrounding opinions and just let things happen when they happen. After all, there are only two of you in your relationship. Don’t let anyone else tell you what to do or how to write YOUR love story. NO ONE can write it, but you and your partner. Write on, lovebirds!